The true purpose of our life is to be happy. Now does it means that I should go out there and do whatever makes me happy even if that means drinking alcohol, smoking, eating fast food or harming some one. No, not at all. And there comes the concept of ‘connection of happiness’. We associate happiness with a lot of things and many times they are not right. For example eating sweets to make ourselves happy when we are sad or drinking alcohol to get over some one. These are the associations that we train our brain with for years of practice.
Stop right there and list all such habits that deep inside you know are not good for you. This will not stop you from doing it but awareness is the first step. Until unless we accept that any habit is not good for us, we are not going to leave it. So it is the choice that we need to make first to know what are the things that we are doing are not good for us. Its like doing the diagnosis of a disease, only then it can be cured.
Step 2 is to decide that you want to change the connection of happiness from wrong habits to healthy and right habits. Also you are the one who is supposed to define right or wrong as for some one it can be for a run every time they get sad and for another it might be meeting a friend and talk about it. Its also a matter of convenience and available options. So it is important to give your self some options before strictly adhering to the new habits. Most of the times we do not stick to the new habits because we assume there is only one choice and if we can’t stick to it then we are a failure and we get even more sad and end up returning back to the old habits to be happy. To get out of this loop we need to give ourselves rating from 10 to 1 and 1 means that we at least tried and this way we never are a failure and its just a matter of getting more or less points. Remember that while deciding to change the connection of happiness from the bad habits to good habits we are actually choosing a path and once we choose a path then we are no longer on the old way. I would suggest start visualizing this and then you would feel it is so easy to follow.
Step 3 is practicing the new habits consciously. Any habit takes time to form therefore replacing a habit also takes a cycle. Our brain is very powerful but its like like wild horse that is jumping around all the time and its hard to train it. We need to understand that its our asset that we need to take care of and our baby that we need to nurture as well. Do not be harsh on yourself and have patience in teaching your brain the right things. Take time and be patient, the more gentle you would be the more calm the brain will become. The more strict you will treat it, the more wilder it will start behaving. Practice every day in the morning or what ever time suits you to calm down and tell your brain the right things. Tell stories to yourself just like we used to do in our childhood (reading loud) and believe me it works and it works very well.
I will share more insight into this as we move forward. I am also just practicing these things as you are reading this. So there is a lot to come. Be happy with the right connection!
To unlearn we need to free ourselves from the bondage. We need to unlearn the learned behavior as it is all about freedom from the know and liberating ourselves from the limited knowledge that we have. We need to open ourselves to the great possibilities of life. The limitless joy of learning and creativity will come easy if we create a blank sheet by unlearning. Then we can write the life from the beginning with the truth we acquire and not from the learned behavior that we know since we are born and the one we are taught.
So much work to do and this is the real test of patient. When we took so many years to learn the things then it will take at least some time to unlearn them. Choice is ours whether we want to know the truth or we are happy in the drama of everyday life that brings excitement, happiness, pain, confusion and a lot more human emotions with it. I have decided to choose the new life and with it comes knowing the truth. Truth of life at my own and not based on what others have told so far. Not based on any book, not based on any learned behavior or acquired knowledge, not based on the teachings of religion. It might take a while to get there but I have taken a decision and I have made a choice as that’s all it takes to get to the destination – Making a choice and taking a decision to be there one day.
I know it might sound like preaching about life but its what I am feeling during the journey of self-realization. I would admit that its not a garden of roses all the time and it has its own ups and down. I cant focus on positive side of it all the time. But that’s how I have trained my brain so far – to distract from simple thoughts. Hence I need to re-train it again to be able to focus and repeat the process of unlearning to accept the truth. One and only truth of life.
I am not leaving my everyday activities and going in search of truth like many others. But I would just start looking inside myself and see whats there to learn about myself. Like an onion I am starting to peal myself and see how many layers I have got and what each layers brings to life. I am still just at the very beginning of this journey but I would love to share this revelation that I am going through each and every day of life. Its a joy, excitement and a lot of hope to getting closer to the truth every moment I spend thinking about it. I have asked for it so shall get it and I am making myself ready to receive it now.
Beauty of life in all forms. Nature gives us beauty everywhere. It has created everything unique as no two things are same. That means we all are unique so we do not have to copy others all the time to fit in the crowd. We should not loose the beauty of who we are but rather keep the uniqueness that is a gift to us and bring variety to the world.
What do I need to do next to know the truth? In present I am full of the biased learning, perceptions, judgments, limits, fear and a lot more other things. How can you fill the glass when it is already full. And that’s where I am at the moment. Only willing to learn doesn’t really help in learning something, it is also very important that we unlearn the things in life to be able to accept the new truth. At times we ask or pray to get things but we are not ready for it. It is like asking some one to come to visit us but either we do not have time for that person or no place to entertain. So how any new knowledge is going to help if we do not have space to store it.
I think it is the reason that although the truth is simple and in front of me but I can not see it. Because I am full and can not take any new knowledge until I actually unlearn. How do we know whatever we know whether it is the truth or not? Some will say that it is the result of all the knowledge stored in books, some will say that these are the findings from the efforts of many intellectual people. But then how do I know they knew the truth or they perceived it right. Is it right to question everything? May be not if we think we might unlearn what we do at our job as well. But that is not the case as we are talking about the spiritual leaning here. Learning about the journey of this beautiful life.
I believe in the power of imagination. Also I believe that we are part of universe and universe is part of us and we all contain the same energy then don’t we have all the knowledge stored in us. And we deeply know everything. Its just that we put limits to everything and we see things only as we want to see and close our eyes to rest of the universe. We make ourselves small and limited whereas the universe has a lot to offer.
I want to look into myself rather than seeking everywhere else for this knowledge and the truth. As no matter where we go in the world, truth is inside us only. All we have got to do it know ourselves. And I think we miss this only as its simple and we are used to of resolving complicated stuff and do not give much attention to simple things in life.