Now I know its been a very long time I have posted anything here. I know there are no excuses for being lazy but there were certain things that have happened in life in past few months.
I have been very sick since I came back from Peru with a parasite called Blasto Hominis. Good news is that I am on a recovery period. So I will be back with lots of updates for last couple of months and my progress in the bucket list of this year. Glad to be back as I really missed you guys. Hope you are doing well and writing here whenever you get time. Also I have created a new site for my blog that I would like to share with my latest post from April for the obstacle race that I did – Spartan, before I got really sick.
First of all apology to be away for long as I have been busy travelling and doing things on my bucket list for this year. I was trying to build my website for this blog to be able to post more pictures and stuff as this website is almost full from the content I posted last year. Here is a link to my new website and I would really appreciate if you visit it and give me some feedback regarding it. Any feedback regarding the performance or how to make it better would be great.
Good news that I have been able to do some really good travelling and also some cool items ticked off from my list. Flash mob is one of them as I have always wanted to do them. I participated in Rueda (form of cuban salsa in community) and it was heaps of fun I must say. You can find some pictures in my new blog 🙂
Ok not that I like to indulge into controversy but I have been thinking for while now after having my own first bucket list (bucketlist 2013) last year. And this year also I was initially not keen to make one but then I end up writing a few things in it (bucketlist 2014). I was thinking this year if I do need a bucket list or not. Why bucket list? This was the question I asked myself last year as well before writing my list. Well I read some stuff on this as well where I saw both pros and cons of having a bucket list. Some says its good to write down the things you love to do in order to prioritize them in life. Others says it can sabotage you or can make you a tourist and not a traveller if you just do the things in your list all the time.
I was amazed how strong people’s opinion was about the term called bucket list. Ok let’s give it a new name then first to disassociate the bucket that looks like a limitation first of all that can only fit few things at one time. What would you call chasing your dreams and do things that make you happy? I don’t think we ever do anything in terms of bucket list that makes us feel miserable or unhappy right? So the key is happiness, sense of achievement and over all it’s a positive change that it brings in your life. I don’t want to associate it with death either as that’s the worst thing I can do to associate it with fear of dying one day. So I won’t call it a ‘things to do before I die’. I don’t want the name ‘to do list’ either as it should not be forced upon me just because I want to do these things doesn’t mean I have to pressure myself into doing it as that would cause more stress than happiness. ‘Wish list’ is not bad but not quiet appealable still.
Any ways the reason to write few things to do that makes you happy are many like:
As humans we are quiet prone to laziness and just do whatever we do in our daily life the same way and become a bit robotic and get into our automatic gear to run our life
We are not conditioned socially to think about our well being and happiness usually
We are accustomed of thinking in terms of what is right and good in terms of the rules of society
There are times that makes us think that we are not happy but then we start the blame game rather than changing something in our life
Also we are prone to associate our happiness with the tangible things a lot of time (example: money which is basically a tool to do things in life that are either necessary or important but we start giving more importance in hoarding the money till death do us apart).
We have so many mundane activities in day to day life that takes precedence and we loose focus on the important things in life
It’s hard for us to prioritize things if we don’t have the focus around the important things
Our brain is conditioned to use the data in form of list better than the random chunks of information or goals
We are so used to of making a to do list in our head that anything similar gets done quickly or more clearly
But now that we understand that this particular list (or a new name that we would give this list soon) is important in order to focus on the important things in life what we are not supposed to do:
This list is important but it should not stress you so much that you become upset or unhappy otherwise you loose the whole essence of having such a list
With time our priorities and goals change as well as our likes and dislikes hence its important to revisit your list every now and then
Don’t attach yourself to the list that not doing something from the list makes you dishearten at any time
Don’t think that not being able to do something on the list is the end of the world as it is not
Make sure you remember the reason you have a list – to make you happy. So anything on the list that you think is going to make you unhappy try to find a better item in its place
It’s your list so don’t come under social pressure to complete anything on your list. Take your own pace and do it as you like not by the fear of what others would think. It’s your list and you can do whatever you want with it – change it, do it, cancel it whatever.
Try to bring the balance of different kind of things on your list to make sure the start doesn’t discourage you and you always have the variety to choose from. For example: If you want to make abs then don’t obsess about it so much that you kill your self on the gym floor. Try to understand that having things on your list doesn’t make them magic items that can be done any quicker than their normal time. I had a item saying I want to run marathon whereas I had never run in my whole life for even 5 k. So I didn’t do it last year and training this year for obstacle course which is helpful to increase my stamina and also if I would like then I would run a marathon one day that too only in case I think I would enjoy it.
Don’t have a list that you think would make you look cool in front of others but also think of the reason why you
At last but not the least do remember that you create a bucketlist to achive more and to be happy in life and the moment you start getting streesed due to it that means a problem and you need to start thinking why you had it in the first place.
Hope you have fun with or without bucket list doing things that you love my friend.
You must be wondering what’s happening to my bucket list for this year. Well this year I wanted to do things differently and I think I was able to do it to some extent. My idea initially was to do things as they come and then once done add them to my list. As after last year, having achieved so much changed my perspective towards the bucket list concept. I have already done few things this year that I would love to share with you and doing it already as well. I would again categorize my list in terms of body, mind and soul area to balance my actions for this year. Last year was fantastic in terms of the places I travelled, adventures I did, people I met and feeling of peace and calm that I felt.
Travel, Fitness, Food, Learning and miscellaneous – for Mind, Body and Soul
Visit Taronga Zoo in Sydney as I have never been there
Participate in a flash mob
Take Vow of silence a day/ a week / a month
Find 10 fears in myself and overcome some of them (example: approach some one and ask for a coffee date, cycle around Sydney)
Spend a day of gratitude and no transaction of money but rather live like a monk
Buy a car
Get my driving license
Learn to surf
Take an African Safari
Plan Christmas and New Year in some awesome place – yet to decide
Attend a huge rock concert
Go on a sailing trip
Do something for a homeless person
Write list of fears like last year and overcome some of them (insert the link here)
Go on a diving trip
Do 10 things that make you the happiess
Plan to participate in Carnival in Brazil
Create a custom website for my travels and other stuff
Try ice skating
Do something completely spontaneously – may be five thing
Ask a stranger for coffee
Buy someone lunch
Write a book
Make a documentary
Note/ Question: I have updated the list and now its just over 50 so what do you say shall I make it a 100 ??
I would add more items here soon to make it a list of 50 like last year and let’s see how many I can achieve this year 🙂 Wish me luck as I would need some wishes my friends 🙂 And now get ready for an adventurous journey for this year my friend with me where nothing is predictable and anything can happen as this is my life. And as you already know it is full of mysteries to unveil on the way and lot of adventure to see.