Why write a bucketlist?

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Ok not that I like to indulge into controversy but I have been thinking for while now after having my own first bucket list (bucketlist 2013)  last year. And this year also I was initially not keen to make one but then I end up writing a few things in it (bucketlist 2014). I was thinking this year if I do need a bucket list or not. Why bucket list? This was the question I asked myself last year as well before writing my list. Well I read some stuff on this as well where I saw both pros and cons of having a bucket list. Some says its good to write down the things you love to do in order to prioritize them in life. Others says it can sabotage you or can make you a tourist and not a traveller if you just do the things in your list all the time.

I was amazed how strong people’s opinion was about the term called bucket list. Ok let’s give it a new name then first to disassociate the bucket that looks like a limitation first of all that can only fit few things at one time. What would you call chasing your dreams and do things that make you happy? I don’t think we ever do anything in terms of bucket list that makes us feel miserable or unhappy right? So the key is happiness, sense of achievement and over all it’s a positive change that it brings in your life. I don’t want to associate it with death either as that’s the worst thing I can do to associate it with fear of dying one day. So I won’t call it a ‘things to do before I die’. I don’t want the name ‘to do list’ either as it should not be forced upon me just because I want to do these things doesn’t mean I have to pressure myself into doing it as that would cause more stress than happiness. ‘Wish list’ is not bad but not quiet appealable still.

Any ways the reason to write few things to do that makes you happy are many like:

  1. As humans we are quiet prone to laziness and just do whatever we do in our daily life the same way and become a bit robotic and get into our automatic gear to run our life
  2. We are not conditioned socially to think about our well being and happiness usually
  3. We are accustomed of thinking in terms of what is right and good in terms of the rules of society
  4. There are times that makes us think that we are not happy but then we start the blame game rather than changing something in our life
  5. Also we are prone to associate our happiness with the tangible things a lot of time (example: money which is basically a tool to do things in life that are either necessary or important but we start giving more importance in hoarding the money till death do us apart).
  6. We have so many mundane activities in day to day life that takes precedence and we loose focus on the important things in life
  7. It’s hard for us to prioritize things if we don’t have the focus around the important things
  8. Our brain is conditioned to use the data in form of list better than the random chunks of information or goals
  9. We are so used to of making a to do list in our head that anything similar gets done quickly or more clearly

But now that we understand that this particular list (or a new name that we would give this list soon) is important in order to focus on the important things in life what we are not supposed to do:

  • This list is important but it should not stress you so much that you become upset or unhappy otherwise you loose the whole essence of having such a list
  • With time our priorities and goals change as well as our likes and dislikes hence its important to revisit your list every now and then
  • Don’t attach yourself to the list that not doing something from the list makes you dishearten at any time
  •  Don’t think that not being able to do something on the list is the end of the world as it is not
  • Make sure you remember the reason you have a list – to make you happy. So anything on the list that you think is going to make you unhappy try to find a better item in its place
  • It’s your list so don’t come under social pressure to complete anything on your list. Take your own pace and do it as you like not by the fear of what others would think. It’s your list and you can do whatever you want with it – change it, do it, cancel it whatever.
  • Try to bring the balance of different kind of things on your list to make sure the start doesn’t discourage you and you always have the variety to choose from. For example: If you want to make abs then don’t obsess about it so much that you kill your self on the gym floor. Try to understand that having things on your list doesn’t make them magic items that can be done any quicker than their normal time. I had a item saying I want to run marathon whereas I had never run in my whole life for even 5 k. So I didn’t do it last year and training this year for obstacle course which is helpful to increase my stamina and also if I would like then I would run a marathon one day that too only in case I think I would enjoy it.
  • Don’t have a list that you think would make you look cool in front of others but also think of the reason why you

At last but not the least do remember that you create a bucketlist to achive more and to be happy in life and the moment you start getting streesed due to it that means a problem and you need to start thinking why you had it in the first place.

Hope you have fun with or without bucket list doing things that you love my friend.

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Letter from a stranger who saved my life as I almost died that night

Hi All,

I was going through my stuff and found this letter from a stranger who became an angel and a friend later. It was the time when I was going through a very rough stage in my life. When I look back now it feels like eternity and I can’t believe that I was so upset in my life at that point due to the people whom I loved and cherished once and who hurt me the most in my life. I might not have shared this a year ago but now that I am out of that situation and have become a much stronger and happier person in life then I would like to share this letter that I recieved from a person who saved my life and stood by me that night. It was christmas party that I wanted to go to make sure I get a bit of a change from my current life’s problems and get my mind away from the problems. It was the fear of my ex that took over after few drinks and I panicked that night. Then worst happened and I was lucky to find some angles that night to save my life and help me realise no matter how much people hurt you or damage your life but there are others selfless souls in this world who spread peace and love. And that makes me feel that there is absolutely no reason to give up on people who are no good for you or who treat you mean and create problems in your life. But rather think about the nice people around and the goodness in this world and have hope and love in your heart. Thanks to those people who saved me and whom I would always be grateful to. So here goes the letter:

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Hey,

Nicole and I (photo attached) were there from the start til the very end so I’m happy to meet with you to discuss it, or below is basically the details of the event.

At about 10.30, while we were all sitting in a circle chatting, we noticed you were rather intoxicated.

Within minutes, you collapsed to the floor. 

Rich (photo attached – only one I have on my phone) grabbed you up to sit up but you fell back down.  So he laid you on your side until the medical guys that were on site arrived.

We took you into a side room.  At this point, there were only Nicole, Rich, Pauline and I, including the staff of Town Hall and party organisers, and the med guys were in the room trying to assist.

At this point, your heart rate dropped and there was a 50/50 chance.  You were severely in shocked and body was not coping well.  I dont believe they performed CPR but they had to put a lot of pressure on your chest due to your heart beat slowing right down.  The med guys decided that you needed to be taken to hospital.

As you arrived to the party with no one and Pauline and Rich had to go, Nicole and I volunteered to be present with you in the ambulance and at the hospital.

Whilst in the ambulance I made all attempts to get an emergency contact details through work place, but to no avail.  We also went through your phone and attempted to contact Kunal whom wasn’t able to come due to no transportation.  At this point, we were already aware your situation with regards to your ex (as you had mentioned it to Pauline and we were informed so that we could treat this matter carefully)

We saw numbers on the phone from text messages that we knew not to call. 

Upon arriving at the Sydney hospital the nurse took a breath test, and unfortunately you were 4 times over the limit.  This was consumed within 2-3 hours max.  We knew the mental and emotional state you were in but we had no idea whether you had taken any pills prior or not.  You were admitted to emergency.  This was about midnight.  Nicole and I stuck by you til 2.30.  During this time, you were still quite in shock and intoxicated.  Towards the end, you gained some consciousness and became more aware of the situation ie you being at the hospital.  You got up to Nicole and I.  You opened up a lot to us about the AVO and personal situation.  You managed to give us your address in North shore., as we of course didn’t want to take you back to the address on your licence for your safety.  A lot was said by you which I truly hope one day soon it will be over and brighter days for you.  We even got to the point where both shed tears because you spoke of ending your life to find peace.  I have had friends that passed away and one committed suicide. I showed you a tattoo on my arm of my friend and told you that not a day go by, I dont feel hurt by the selfish act of my friend.  So please, I hope you dont do anything silly to yourself.  I dont know you well enough but I know you are in a bad place, but I do believe that what happens today makes us stronger tomorrow for brighter days ahead. At 2.30 I spoke to the nurse and she informed me that we didnt have long at the hospital as at this stage you were no longer in danger and not life threatening.  We escorted you out onto the road and attempted to get a taxi.  At 3am we managed to get one, and Nicole lives over the bridge so she took you home first, ensured you got into your place ok and she left to go home.  I live in Waterloo so I left as soon as you guys got a cab. 

It was a night that we all didn’t expect but it does happen.  Do not feel embarrassed.  If you were a drunk and its a common thing then I would have stuck by you but due to the fact that you had a lot going on, it was the right thing to do to ensure your safety comes first. 

I hope you are feeling much better now and you said you are seeking help from a counsellor.  I truly hope it works out as you seemed like a really nice person that wants nothing but happiness and to live a normal life.  Stay strong and know that you are not alone.  I am only a phone call away if you need a friend OK. 

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I am not sure what kind of problems you might face in life but smaller or bigger we all are capable to choose a life for ourself and lead a life with happiness if we are willing to. So don’t feel embarrased about things that have happened in your life as we all have a past. But its the choices we make in our present and its the decisions we make to corrct them that matters the most.

A warm and kind hug from a friend – Kavita

You got to have hope and a smile – Rest will follow

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“I would rather be dreaming than living,
Living is just too hard to do.
Its chances not choices,
Noises not voices, Day is just to hard to get through.”

These lines made me think how easy it is sometimes to loose hope. But rough times are only there to remind us that we need to change whatever we are doing and get back to the good things to make it a better start and a better life for ourselves. I have changed, in last one year my life has taken several turns and as a person I have developed a lot, learned a lot and found a new me. In this journey I went through different phases – phase when I was giggly, phase when I was calm and happy, phase when I was upset, phase when I was sad and depressed, phase when I had this unknown fear of new things, phase when I found this new courage in me to do stuff which I never thought I could do before. It was amazing how life has changed so much in just one year. Now when I look back and see where I was and where I have come, I can see what all choices I made and what all options I created myself. I would never regret any of it and if given a second chance I don’t think I would like to change any thing either. I am standing in a booth in the airport, about to embark on another adventure this year, thinking how many people I have met and how many lives I have learned about. The roller coaster of emotions have been overwhelming at times and I have been stubborn not to face the truth several times but yet I have come so far and that’s what makes us all who we are. We keep going in this journey of life and things happen but the truth is ‘it shall too pass’ no matter what. Thats’ why it’s very important to keep your head down a little when time is bad and think ‘it shall too pass’ and keep the light shining in your eyes when you know time is little to enjoy the good things that are happening in life. Make choices that comes from your heart and every once in a while try to disconnect yourself from rest of the world and think about who you are and what you would like to do if rest of the world didn’t exist or didn’t matter, those would be few things that would lead you to the light hidden in your subconscious that might be worth discovering.

I am still learning, every day and every moment as some passes me in my sleep and some catches my fancy when I am awake. But this journey is worth enjoying as we don’t have another life to wait for or loose this one to find another one. Things that haven’t happened yet doesn’t exist in this universe, things that have happened are lost on the way, only things that are happening to you are worth thinking about and living those moments in them. Rest all is just a creativity of your mind as not even a single thing other than present is really true. So try not to focus on past too much as it would take away the time you have to relish your present and don’t plan too much for future as that might have nothing to do with your imagination. I don’t say leave everything and chase your dream yet as before that you might have to go on a journey of self discovery and then only you would know what dreams are real and what are just fantasy that you just picked up on the way. As while going through my own self discovery journey I have learned that the dreams that I had when I was a child have changed quiet a lot. I have got a different understanding of the world and more awareness of myself. I would still like to stay in touch with myself and learn more and more about this world and myself and things are changing every moment as I am writing this and as you are reading this. But that’s brings variety in life as change is the only constant and we need to learn to change in order to survive or rather I should say that we should become change and rest will follow.

With hope and smile, welcome every new day. It might be sunny and beautiful someday whereas it might be raining and cloudy some other times (as we have in Sydney these days). But remember ‘this shall too pass’. Life is not hard its just the choices we make some time that lead us to certain difficulty in life. And once we are aware of this then we make an effort to give it a thought before making any choice. I don’t say wait for too long as the opportunity might pass otherwise but don’t get into mad rush and run blindly everywhere. Open your eyes as even if you end up on a difficult path you would be able to figure out a way out.

To all my friends out there in sadness and happiness, in need of a friend or in need of a voice to help them. This might not give you everything you need but this might help you to think few things on your own and find your own path in life.

Regards,

Kavita

Imaginary Lock on Life

                       

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Its amazing I think, how we lock ourselves in these imaginary restrictions and boundaries in life and keep ourselves from the true happiness and freedom. It is our ultimate right to be free but how many of us are truly free and do things that we love or like. We might be free in the books but in reality we do have many locks on our soul and mind. How many days do we get up and think what I would love to do today? Not many of us really, or atleast go to work with a happy mind and soul. We need to start thinking of life as a journey and realize that there are better ways to live through it – by enjoying and accepting the moments, people and feeling that we come across. Life is short – every one is telling us to be happy but can I do that for you? No, you have to help yourself as each and every individual is enjoying their own journey. Parents can guide and help the children but as human being we interact with each other but the path of life is something we have to choose and we have to walk through it. Its not difficult, believe me or believe yourself for it as what you will think is what you will become eventually.

Break these locks and free yourself, there is a beautiful world out there if you havn’t realized yet. It’s waiting for you to cherish each and every moment you spend as human being and before you move on from this state of being to another and merge into the universe again. Pain can be there in your life but are you going to stop living then? You are still here on Earth, on this journey then why not try to make this experience worthwhile. And once this journey of life will end then you would not have a chance to go back and change the way you lived it. Also do not try to change your past as it is against nature and that’s the way nature has created the whole universe that we move on and do not go back in time ever. If nature doesnt change it then why would you. After all who you are today is because of your past. And how do you think you could have been any better if something else would have happened. If you can’t change the past then why waster your present by thinking about it as then again the next time you look back the current present will be your past and you would realize you havn’t achieved much still. And this is the cycle that will go on forever. Get out of this rut and accept what has happened. Then only you will be able to live in present and then this present will become a better past in your life. That is what I am doing as I realized only recently in my life that I was in the rut of this cycle and was repenting most of the things that have happened in past. I was trying my best to change it and was fighting against nature without realizing that it is impossible.

Now here I am, accpeting my past with my head high – why?  Because I got through all the bad things that came to my life and most of them must have been my own imaginazations of worst as everything happens to us is the only thing that can happen to us in life, universe provides us what we ask for – either conciously or sub-conciously. And I can say that I have been through some kind of hell in my life if any exisit really. So if you think that you want to live a full life before this journey ends then do it now – Make a decision to live and you will eventually. You do not have to spend money for that, you don’t even have to travel or buy anything, all you have to do is see this life as a journey and all the bad things as accidents that happened in some point of time while you were in this train of your body that is moving forward every moment you breathe. And you can either choose to shut your eyes or you can choose to open your eyes and enjoy the view and feel the universe with your heart, soul and mind. I am doing it and I can say that it feels magestic. I am still practicing this as we are trained to do stuff and that’s how we start  working in life all the time which makes it hard to understand the truth and see the reality around. But I will share my journey with you all as it would be great if any one even tries to live life fully as that would start the process and you wouldn’t be far from ultimate peace.

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Glass Half Empty – Like my life

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I look at this glass and think of my life. My life is so much like this half full glass. I still need to see so much, feel so much and have so much still in me with what I have seen and lived. And this light from the reflection of sun is like the hope in my heart to live more and more every day 🙂

Have a wonderful weekend my dear friends! I am feeling so happy and peaceful right now and I am sending this good feeling to you from here 🙂

Is money more important than happiness?

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After having read the basics about money in my last post  Money is a good servant, but a bad master, I would like you to take a moment and think about todays situation. Why is that we feel that money is very important. Even when we are growing up, money seems to be very important in life so we always have the desire to have money and to save it if possible for the times when we can spend it for our various needs. But what do we do at times, we become so obsessed with money that we start loving it and try to save even a single penny and avoid spending on ourselves. So either we are on the other side – extravagant or we are too cautious to spend it at all. If any of us have seen financial crisis while growing up or have gone through such times at any point of our lives we start taking money as a source of happiness and security. No matter it does make us secure financially but to some point. As after that we need to be able to spend it on our requirement to grow every now and then. I have been one of those people I guess who have given too much importance to money, not that I start mistreating people or something but when it used to came to myself I would hardly spend any money. It is from last two years that I realised that it’s my money and it’s OK to spend it on myself or to fulfil my needs and desires through it if needed.
It struck me today that I am on the path of being free from the fears as part of my bucket list for the year, but then I also realised I am not free at all. I do have my own attachments and one of them is money. There have been such times that I avoided having food when I am travelling to stay on budget. And I am sure everyone has gone through this at least once when we feel like it’s better to save money for something better than using it for some immediate needs. I am on a mission to find everything about being happy so this is also one of my concerns. This doesn’t mean that we need to go to 5 start hotel everyday to have the best meal, but it does mean that doing small acts like saving a meal at times can also make us fall in love with the attachment of money and start trading our needs in terms of money.
I have been trying to imagine a world without money. Wired right, but then I was thinking about the original purpose of money as well. Why we invented this tool – to fulfil our needs. Right, and what are we doing with it? Accumulating a lot of times. People coming from rich background might not understand it fully that there are emotions attached to money at times. What happens when we start storing it for endless future – people who are not able to earn enough go through poverty. How would be life when there is a balance in terms of money? Don’t you think people would be happier? Did we invent money thinking that there might be people who are buying aeroplanes and on the other end there are people who don’t even have enough food for a meal or shelter for shade? Was this the purpose of money that our immediate family is only the owner of our stored money whereas some of the people around the world are starving to death? How did we let this happen? We didn’t want this did we? That money – piece of paper will become more important than life. How is this fair to mankind that we start trading people for money and selling ourselves for money? Didn’t we devise this tool to make it easier to exchange daily good and food and not to make nuclear bombs? Haven’t we have been spreading unhappiness by creating lack of money in certain countries or areas?
As I am writing this my heart is crying thinking about those new born babies who have to see poverty growing up and who will come to learn that we humans have made money everything and they are nothing without it. My soul is feeling so cramped with this notion that we have limited the natural happiness that is universal and unlimited by our own invention called money. I can’t make people happy today as all they think is if they have money then they can be happy. I can’t bring smile on every face today as they haven’t eaten for few days without money. Why things can’t be simple and we can use the things given to us by nature to feed ourselves and grow rich spiritually. God or whoever made this universe didn’t put a price tag on anything but we did. Everything in universe is really free to survive and live but we are selling even water. We love to own things and trade it later whether it’s land, water or even forests. How can I bring people close to themselves when they are lost in this vicious circle? Share your thoughts on this.

Shine On Kavita With The….SHINE ON AWARD !!!

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One more time, another award adorns my blog !!!

I want to thank Michael and Anil from the bottom of my heart for nominating me for the SHINE ON AWARD. They have very nice blogs and I would recommend to go and check their website.

This award makes me realize that I have been moving on the right path and people like to read what I am writing which is really a big thing for me. Big hug and thanks to all the friends here for your interests and contributions to the blog.

THE RULES:

1. You must thank the person who has given you the award – Done

2. Copy the logo and place it on your blog – Done

3. Link person who nominated you for the award – Done

4. State seven things about me

SEVEN THINGS ABOUT ME

1. I want to make people smile whenever I can
2. I want to make sure that I become better person each passing year of my life
3. I am grateful to God for this good life
4. I listen to music when going to work usually
5. I like meeting energetic people as it’s more important to me to understand their perspective of life and how they react to things in life
6. I love thinking about the basics of life
7. I am in love with the people in my blogging world and can see how much love and faith people have here

MY SEVEN NOMINATIONS

1. Lyn – http://theencouragingscribe.wordpress.com
She is just amazing person and a great grandmother and I do believe that the children who have her in their life are blessed.

2. MJ at http://paintedpenguins.wordpress.com
A talented poet and very intellectual person

3. http://halfeatenmind.wordpress.com
Vijay is very active blogger and holds a journalism & media undergraduate degree

4. http://1cruzdelsur.wordpress.com/
Talented photographer and avid reader with awesome blog..and yes music is very soothing when you open the blog

5. http://everythingaussie.wordpress.com/
An interesting and very curious blogger with vast knowledge about various fields

6. http://cosytravels.wordpress.com/
A Danish organ player (Lars) and a Belgian language teacher (Ingrid)….lovely people on their journey to travel around the world

7. http://thenomadicsoliloquist.wordpress.com
Tanumoy is a computer engineer and have a good eye for photographs I must say

Congratulations to you all and keep up the good work

My promise to myself for 5 years to live life fully: First installment is here already – Bucket List 2013

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Hi All,

No I didn’t hide myself after talking about my bucket-list. I am ready with few things as of now 😉

I have an outline of 5 years plan to complete as many things in my wish list as possible – My promise to myself for 5 years to live life fully. And you know what I will be so used to of doing it that I would never stop after that. So sushh..its a smart plan right 😉

First I want to make a quick year plan that I have thought from now to end of this year – as many things as I can try to do this year.

A lot of things in my wishlist require intense travelling and I want to get few other things done before I go for few years travelling. So why not explore Australia. I had two thoughts one for 5 years plan and another one for this year to get myself started as soon as possible.

Here is a table that I made at a very high level as it would need few iteration before reaching to a final list and more items in each category with more accurate tasks. All I am trying to do is balance it in a way that I am taking care of my complete well-being. Do tell me your idea about my planning and if there is something you like here or don’t like. I am open to all your thoughts here.

Mind

  • Travel
  • Peace
  • Achievements
  • Adventure
  • Knowledge
  • Learning
  • Reading
  • Writing
  • Yoga
  • Pursue hobbies
  • Create new hobbies
  • Doing new things

Body

  • Exercise
  • Dancing
  • Food
  • Rest
  • Nourishment
  • Healing

Soul

  • Travel
  • Learn new culture
  • See new places
  • Self Awareness
  • Learn about various religions

Society

  • Making friends
  • Meeting new people
  • Volunteer
  • Making contact and change something in their life
  • Blogging
  • Government

Miscellaneous

  • Get P driver licence
  • Continue with blogging
  • Make a plan to write a book
  • Learn new skills

Now here is my list for this year. I have this rough draft and as I would like to keep around 50 items so I might need to cross some of these and add few new. Although I will try to come up with the final list in few weeks time.

  1. Start learning Spanish
  2. Go on a short road trip
  3. Run a half-marathon
  4. Visit at least 7 cities of Australia in next 7 months
  5. Attend a concert
  6. Try caving – Jenolan Caves in Sydney
  7. Learn dancing – Preferably street dancing or salsa
  8. Try stand up paddling
  9. Read at least 1 famous book
  10. Try couch surfing in Australia
  11. Plan for New Year and Christmas in Miami and Los Angeles
  12. Cruise – Weekend may be at least
  13. Try at least 10 different cuisines
  14. Get P driver licence
  15. Get more active with blogging – redesign the site
  16. Make a plan to write a book
  17. Learn about a country in Europe – culture, food etc
  18. Sing Karaoke
  19. Attend blogger’s event
  20. Do at least few things living a high life
  21. Eat in one of the best restaurant each month
  22. Swim with Crocodile
  23. Swim with White Sharks
  24. Learn to ski
  25. Visit atleast one historical town in Australia
  26. Learn martial arts
  27. Get my weight back to 47 KG
  28. Learn to say “Hello” in at least 20 language
  29. Go Handgliding/ Microlight Flight
  30. Practice Indoor Rock Climbing
  31. Canyoning
  32. Dive and snorkel the Great Barrier Reef
  33. Go on a multiple day hikes
  34. Volunteer
  35. Jetpack Ride
  36. Visit Twin Falls at Kakadu National Park
  37. Swim at a fake beach: Brisbane
  38. Visit one of these – Cradle Mountain / Wineglass Bay /Bay of Fires in Launceston, Tasmania
  39. Learn to sail in the world’s best harbor: Darling Harbour
  40. Enjoy tacos and margaritas with a new friend: Sydney
  41. Go for Hot Air Balooning
  42. Watch an open air cinema
  43. Complete Advanced Scuba diving course
  44. Participate in making a short film
  45. Write 50 Poems
  46. Have a schooner at Australia’s oldest pub: Fortune of War pub, Sydney
  47.  Climb the coathanger, Sydney Harbour bridge
  48. Send one article to get published
  49. Overcome one fear
  50. Do one thing new each week

Do write something even if some thing funny or serious as that way I would know where my list took your mind 😉

Death – Deadline, Bucket-list – Collection of many milestones…Which way do you prefer living?

All I wanted to write was a list of things to have my own bucket-list, just like many other people out there. But it got me into very deep thought about the way we live our life and why we choose just one list and why there is a hurry to accomplish as many things as possible. Then I thought of giving it an analogy to understand it clearly myself. And as I am thinking the words are finding their own way to you in a form of post. I am still in process of thinking through this whole idea of bucket-list as I have been planning stuff in my life and try to do them as per the plan as the time goes by. But recently while travelling, I heard people talking about their bucket-list a lot. And to be honest I was not into it till few days ago. I think I will still mull over the idea of creating a bucket-list. The issue is not with choosing the things I want to do or would like to do   and not with commitment either, the main thing now looks like to me is that sit back and check what life is really about.

Yes, it does seem like a never ending topic if I do that but we all got to do that some time in our life. Specially when you are on this train ride with death as destination, you need to be very careful to choose what all stops you want to visit and experience. As the time for this ride is limited and stops are unlimited. So one way to do it is choose one path to get from starting point to end. Or try to cover as many areas as possible.

We all are different and have different choices and priorities. We all have our own way to see things and experience life. So most of us will choose accordingly. And doing that we will cross each others path on various stops. Some time we will travel together with some people and make friends and then the next moment we might have to go separate ways because we want to see different stops now. We can try to change our way to spend more times with the people we like and get along well. But the truth is this is a journey so no matter how tight you hold on, it is going to end one day anyways. And that time you would like to be happy with the journey you made. So many people around make different choices and then regret that. But it’s never wrong or right, its all about the different stops we choose and different paths we choose in life.

I think of a bucket-list as a way to collect a lot of things into prioritized manner in one list and set the milestone of our journey that way. As each milestone have some impact on our life, hence experiencing each of them will change the way we look at our life. Its like I feel a changed person every time I travel and see a new place. As the more I see, hear and feel, the more different perspective I have.

I am overwhelmed with so many thoughts in my brain at this moment.

Why do we want to make any list to live life? A question that occurred to me when I heard people talking about bucket-list. But then as always I tried to answer myself – because life is short and there are limitless things to do in the world, so it is important to make a list and pin then down to countable numbers to be able to do as much as possible.

How I am going to make one as there is so much I would like to do? I answer myself again.

My brain – “You need to understand that the list has to contain things that make you happy. And you feel alive again”.

Inner Voice – “Then why don’t I just go travelling as that makes me happy.”

Brain – “Life has got so much more to offer and you don’t have so much money to keep travelling for rest of your life anyways.”

Heart – “Stop talking you two as it hurts to think that you put money as limitations in-front of living the dream of your life.”

Brain – “Alright settle down my dear heart, we will not talk about that OK  But we need to understand that there are so many experiences in the world, and so many feeling to be felt. And in today’s life we all are so busy managing this daily life and keep this human healthy that we can’t focus on what makes us truly happy. Am I right?”

Inner Voice – ” I agree on this”.

Heart – “I need to feel alive again”.

Inner Voice – “I need to be heard again”.

Brain – “Then I need to start working again”. 

Lol, that last statement was just for fun. But yes we need to define various areas in our whole being. Even before starting to think about the various fields outside (sports, music etc), it is very important to keep in mind that we need balance in life. And too much exercise and no food for your brain would not give you the true happiness. Here I am not talking about the bucket-list of hundred odd things and get ready to execute them. Here I am talking about giving equal importance to your mind,body and soul. As then only you will be able to decide the things that you would like to do to make them all satisfied and content. And what if we die in the next moment or few days, weeks or months. We might feel as if we missed something. So better take a holistic approach and make sure we achieve a little bit in all areas as we move forward.  Now I think I will not be able to jot down my list in hurry as I feel this topic require lot more than I thought. The deeper I go I feel this might be the most important thing of my life. And if I hurry it then I might be set upon a totally different journey than I would want in real. Hmmm…sometimes I feel its easy not to think much and do things…see that’s exactly how we live these days – don’t want to think and procrastinate everything. And do the minimal that require no new learning each day as its easy to perform the task that we are familiar with. Any ways few more things I need to discuss before setting up a list.

What all things should be there in the list and in what order?  We need to note down some broader field in that case (example: sports,music, health, lifestyle,travel etc). And then once we are done with it then we can choose different items in each area. And then comes the priority of these things in the list. That we should ideally decide on few factors – how much we would love to do it, how much resources it require, how much time needed for its preparation (time,cost,feeling). As for example: running 5 KM marathon can’t be done overnight as it requires training, whereas going on a dinner cruise can be done on any weeknight or week-end night. Then there would be some really long terms things like be an expert in some subject or learning a new language or culture as you have a sea of knowledge to grasp in such cases, so its a part of ongoing learning. Wow this post is getting into shape now. I am thinking to make a very small and handy chart that might help while making your bucket-list if you ever feel like. Not that it require thorough process but just in case you like to think the reason behind things like me then it might be useful as I have done some thinking already. Why don’t I think more on this and get back to you in the next post. You never know as we might think of something big. Please share your thoughts as I might be thinking just in one direction and you might help me in looking at this in a different light altogether.

Wish you a smile, at least few moments of joy and love in your day!

Movies – Way away from present

Movies are one of the great creative way to live in dream with our eyes open. I am not sure how much I might have to get used to of the fact that most of the times we are actually training our brain to live in a dream. Video games are another example for the same. I always loved movies but now I am in a stage where I am questioning my interest reason being that when watching a movie or anything in TV we are actually ignoring the present. Sitting in a couch and watching something recorded in past or live somewhere else that is not the reality around us. Our brain has to work to create that illusion that this is reality and we start imagining this new world around us whereas we stop focusing on whats actual present. 

Not just movies but there are heaps of ways we are actually training our brain to ignore the reality. And now as a result our brain is not focused any more, it keeps getting distracted from the present and either dwell on the past or future but present. I am not sure how much unlearning  will be needed to actually retrain my brain to focus on present and calm down a little bit.

Although we have been able to create a better world by our creativity – a window into the dreams that gives us sense of happiness, but we need to see the bigger picture now and create the beautiful reality around us. Stop living in a movie and create our life more interesting than a movie. Is it possible? May be to some extent. Why not we give it a try. I will try to do this as last time I watched a movie I was thinking more and focusing on movie less. So who knows what I might find out if I am successful in this new path.

But I would share it with you just like other things.